Gay Marriage

In Diana Sweet's blog on gay marriage she stated that people cannot help who they fall in love with and people should be able to be with who they want.  I agree with her on that.   But the definition of marriage is being debated right now by the people. The people of North Carolina just approved an amendment to their state Constitution to define marriage as between a man and a woman.  Other states ae for gay marriage.  Is Man & Woman the same thing  as Man & Man or Woman & Woman?  That  is also still being debated but I dont thinkit is. No one is trying to keep gay people from having relationships or living together or loving each other.  What I dont understand is why they are so hell bent on forcing everyone to validate their relationships as marriages.  There are civil unions and they can even make a up a whole new word of their own for their relationships for all I care and call it that.